Male opinions on dating a rape victim
On the other hand, it was a personal story and one that I didn’t necessarily want to share in detail with someone unless I saw a future together.Ultimately, I learned to open the door to my history a little bit at a time, in ways that tracked with the developing intimacy with the relationship.I don’t know how I expected a rape victim to act, but I didn’t expect her to be so funny.Or to be punk, in this kinda sexy bleached blonde but kind of too lazy to really care sort of way.She never reported the incident and I am one of the only people she has ever discussed it with. All on this forum who have been hurt by this are in my thoughts. In life you have to learn to let what happened go....there's no point on dwelling what happened.For the longest time, I was trying to figure out why she acted in certain ways. I now understand the deep and lasting implications of this act. Maybe you and your girlfriend need to become closer and talk EVERYTHING through, or she needs to talk to someone about what happened.
As the years went on, I experimented with many different tactics. On the one hand, I never felt like I wanted to hide my history of sexual violence from dates, just like I wouldn’t hide the death of a parent or a bad car accident.
They suffer immensely, but they are just as much themselves after the rape as before.
Another rape victim I dated was a butch woman who had just adopted a kitten that completely befuddled her.
I am currently dating a woman that I am absolutely in love with. She was raped as a teenager at a college fraternity house by multiple men. It would be a good idea for her to find a therapist and try to get some help. It is making me say and do things I normally wouldn't do. I usually don't get too close to people because Im afraid they'll hurt me again.
She remembers some parts of it and it was traumatic to say the least. I think you could tell her that you will be there for her no matter what, if she needs to vent or if she just needs someone to talk to. It has to be someone who she feels comfortable with and who she can really talk to. The pain goes into me also and she doesn't understand that I was raped also. I have an amazing boyfriend for two years now, and he supports me everyday.