Korean men dating advice
Note from Chase: Every now and then I get asked about Asian guys and white girls.I understand why some guys ask this; there is a very human tendency we all have to say, "Well, that may work for you, but it's only because you're white / black / Asian / tall / muscular / super smart / naturally talented / some other thing outside of one's power to change." And no matter how much you tell people that that's just an excuse, many of them cling staunchly to this.One of them was a Korean-American guy from Middle America who'd been a nightclub promoter and body builder and even when he was unemployed and not sure what he wanted to do with his life slept with tons of beautiful white girls more easily than most white guys can.Another was a short Chinese-born guy who seemed to literally white women into bed by sheer persistence and charm. He's lived in California, Las Vegas, and East Asia, and enjoys dating women of all types. Feeling much better now so I'm getting black to blogging. I was sick earlier this week, then was dealing with some stress with work.A survey of 6,000 Internet dating profiles by Belinda Robnett and Cynthia Feliciano of the University of California, Irvine, reportedly found that "Asian males and black females are more highly excluded than their opposite sex counterparts." That means white American women would rather opt for black men than Asian males (including East Indian, Pakistani and Bangladeshi), although the latter tend to be more educated, more qualified, more gainfully employed and better placed in the social hierarchy than the average black male.Such social and romantic ostracism even by "fat white women with daddy issues" -- the sorts who go for black men according to standup comedian Jim Norton -- might seem incredulous to Asian men with an inflated ego to nurse.
On the other hand, blacks and Latinos were part of the turbulent American history from the very outset, and hence have a history of social relationships with European Americans.
I can fully understand any questioning my authority to write on such a topic--then again it seems you don't need to be an expert on anything to be declared a relationship expert nowadays (looking at you Patty Stanger and Steve Harvey). Interracial dating is a big deal for a lot of people. But it seems extra scary for some of those when we decide to step out out own racial pool and into another one. But I figured what the hey and decided to humor a few folks with just giving some advice.
It's still amazing to me how easy it is to find some many blog post, Topix questions, or encounter women in everyday life that are still asking about Asian men and how to meet them, how to date them, etc. #shrugs I'm sure you're also wondering why I'm gearing this mostly at women and not the men as well. I know it's not just black women Googling this stuff and have met Asian men asking some of the same questions as the women.
No one would want to be in the shoes of a black man in America. Having the highest incarceration and unemployment rates, not to mention a reputation for violent behavior and drug use, black males are the most stereotyped segment of American demography. Apparently Asian men are actually worse off than their black counterparts, at least in one category -- dating preferences of white American women.
As comedian Chris Rock claims, even a crippled homeless white man will not want to trade places with him. According to a survey of racial exclusion patterns in Internet dating, the most excluded categories are Asian men and black women.